Our guide to arranging a wake in Reading

There is already a lot to think about when a loved one passes away, and we will do all we can to support you. There are a number of options when it comes to planning a wake but traditionally a wake will:

• Be held at a venue close to the funeral site or family home
• Provide refreshments
• Feature a memorial such as a photo display, video or rolling presentation
• Include music
• Include a memorial activity or opportunity for guests to pay tribute
• Offer a more relaxed dress code

Let's go through the options to give you some ideas.

The catering options will vary by venue chosen, your budget and the time held. Biscuits and/or cake along with tea, coffee and cold drinks would always be welcome, but for a larger number of guests you may choose to offer a warm or cold buffet.

You could ask guests to bring something with them, perhaps a dish they knew the deceased was a fan of, or something connected with the Reading or Berkshire area such as Eton Mess or some Wigmore cheese.

If you are holding the wake in a local Reading pub or hotel, guests can, of course, buy their own alcoholic drinks or bar food. You could arrange for a round of your loved one's favourite beer or wine and propose a toast in their honour.

As part of our service, we provide a complimentary online Funeral Notice to help you inform guests of the arrangements for a funeral, or to announce when an unattended cremation is taking place. This makes it quick and easy to pass on funeral details and is an ideal way to provide information about the wake, too.

Social media is also popular when it comes to passing on information and you can, of course, include a wake invitation as part of your funeral stationery or include a notice in local press. We can assist you in making these arrangements, so please don't hesitate to tell us if you would like our help.

A well filled photo collage will give guests the chance to reminisce about their time with the person who has died. You may prefer to just have a photo album on display for guests to look through, tracing right back to baby pictures and into adolescence. But if you have the time, skills, or know someone who can help you, you could display a rolling presentation in tribute to your loved one.

Guests could provide photos/stories/video clips or kind words before the day, and these could be featured. The venue chosen may be able to assist with the necessary hardware, such as a laptop and projector.

• Music - music is entirely optional, but it can help to lighten the atmosphere. Some venues will have speakers in place. if not you would be surprised how well music from a phone or laptop can fill a room. A playlist of your loved one's favourite songs or the album from their favourite artist would provide a fitting tribute.
• Memory jars - place empty jars on each table along with some note pads and pens. Invite guests to write a personal goodbye or their personal memories of the person who has died and add them to the jars. These could be kept as a keepsake or read out on future birthdays or other significant dates in the deceased's life.
• Release balloons or light some candles - take caution with this idea as you will need to ask the permission of the venue and be sure to use biodegradable balloons or lanterns. As the day draws to a close, releasing balloons or holding a candle lit chat into dusk is a respectful way to end the day on a high.