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Funeral Services

Funeral planning guides

Learn more about how to plan a fitting funeral service, from choosing a coffin to writing a memorable eulogy

How to choose a funeral director

Learn more about the role of a funeral director and how to compare funeral homes near you

Choosing a funeral director

Choosing a crematorium

Search for and compare crematoria across the UK using our interactive comparison tool

Use our comparison tool

Hearses and funeral cars

Make your loved one's final journey memorable by choosing one of our quality chauffeur driven hearses

Arrange funeral transport

Coffins, caskets and urns

Browse our extensive range of coffins, caskets and urns, including our unique colourful and picture range

Choosing a coffin or urn

Funeral flowers and floral tributes

We will guide you through all of the available options for funeral flowers and floral tributes

Flowers for a funeral

Funeral music

We have complied a list of the most popular songs for funerals, from classical music to modern day pop songs

Popular songs for funerals

Funeral hymns

Funeral hymns are an important part of a Christian funeral service in the UK. Here are some of the most popular hymns for funerals

Popular funeral hymns

Funeral poems and verses

A collection of the most popular short, funny and religious poems and verses for a funeral

Popular poems for funerals

How to write a eulogy

Learn how to write and deliver a memorable eulogy in tribute to the person who has passed away

Writing a eulogy

Funeral order of service

Discover what to include in an order of service and what other stationery is available for the funeral

Our funeral stationery

Charity donations

Discover how to arrange funeral charity donations in lieu of flowers

Arranging charity donations

How to write an obituary

Learn how to write an obituary and share details about the forthcoming funeral

Writing an obituary

Funeral Notices

Funeral Notices is a convenient way of sharing the details of your loved one’s funeral online with family and friends

What is a Funeral Notice?

Organising a wake

Learn more about selecting a venue, who you should invite and other arrangements for a wake

How to organise a wake

How to plan a funeral service

Planning a funeral for a loved one can be quite an overwhelming and daunting experience. When making funeral arrangements, it’s important that you take all the time you need to reach a decision. Our caring professionals will help you arrange a funeral that is personal to your family and exceeds your expectations.

Funerals are often based around family traditions or religious preferences. The service can include anything you feel appropriate. The first choice people usually make is about the type of funeral service that will take place. Whether you choose a burial or a cremation, we’ll be there to make all the arrangements on your behalf.

These steps will help you plan a fitting funeral for a loved one:

  1. 1. Choose a funeral director

Choosing a funeral director that will arrange a fitting funeral for your loved one will help ease the burden during such a difficult and emotional time. At Dignity, we spend time getting to know you, helping you decide on the most fitting tribute, honouring any final wishes and ensuring that it has your own personal touch.

Each and every one of our professional Funeral Directors is committed to setting superior standards and we promise to provide unequalled support, reassurance and attention to detail when arranging a funeral. 

  1. 2. Decide where and when the service will be held

A funeral service can be held in any suitable venue; many people choose to have the service in a place of worship or crematorium chapel. If you choose a religious service the minister or officiant will say what you can and cannot do. You can also hold the service in a private home or a public room such as a village hall.

Choosing a date for the funeral service may depend on a number of factors, including funeral director and crematoria availability, religious beliefs and family circumstances. If you have a date and time in mind, please contact your local Dignity Funeral Director to discuss availability. 

Read more about when to have a funeral.

  1. 3. Who will lead the service?

Many funerals are held in a place of worship and whomever is leading it will say what you can and cannot do in their church. It is usual for the minister of a church to lead the service unless they allow someone else to. If you want to hold the service at the crematorium and would like a religious service, your local minister will be able to lead the service there for you. You can also use the crematorium chapel to hold a service that is not religious.

In theory, anyone can lead a funeral service. It could be a religious minister, a non-religious minister such as a humanist, the funeral director or a friend or relative.

  1. 4. Consider what type of coffin you want

Choosing a coffin, casket or urn for your loved one can often help with the bereavement process and is an important part of your funeral arrangements. You may also want to place personal items such as photographs, letters or flowers in a coffin or casket, so keep this in mind when you are planning the service.

  1. 5. Select music and readings for the service

Many services include some readings and prayers. The person leading the service or a close friend will often say something about the person who has died. You can include poetry and passages, and friends and family can take part. If the person delivering the main tribute has never met the person who has died, make sure they know some personal details, especially the name they were known by.

You may wish to play a loved one's favourite piece of music at the funeral or choose a popular funeral poem to be read out by a close friend or relative. If the person who has passed away was religious, you could opt for a couple of popular funeral hymns or Bible readings. 

All of the above can bring comfort to friends and family during such an upsetting time. You may also need to consider who will give the eulogy. Find out more about how to write a eulogy.

  1. 6. Create an order of service

You may like to provide a funeral order of service booklet. These are helpful for mourners and can be sent to people who can’t make the service. An order of service may include hymns, songs, poems, readings, photographs, or anything else you would like added, creating a unique commemoration of your loved one’s life. You could also place small attendance cards on the seats for mourners to fill in so you know who was there.

  1. 7. Would you like flowers or charitable donations?

Many people choose flowers and floral tributes to create a personal tribute to a loved one. You may choose an organisation or charity for people to give a donation to in lieu of flowers.

It is worth remembering that sending flowers can be a healing gesture for people who have lost
someone close. Therefore it might be worth giving people the choice of sending flowers or donating money to a charity, or both.

  1. 8. Arrange funeral transport and choose a route for the procession 

On the day of the funeral, the hearse will take the coffin to the funeral service; it is usually followed by limousines which carry family and close friends. Choosing chauffeured limousines will ensure you don't have to worry about parking, driving and getting to the service on time.

If you wish to make your loved one’s final journey even more personal, choosing a hearse or alternative mode of transport which celebrates their life can be a fitting tribute. You may also arrange a particular route for the funeral procession to take and may need to decide whether it will begin at the home of the person who has passed away, or a different location. 

  1. 9. Write an obituary or create an online Funeral Notice

Writing and publishing an obituary in a local newspaper will help you celebrate the life of your loved one and share details about the forthcoming funeral. After the funeral, you can also place a thank you message in a newspaper to thank the people who attended and sent donations and flowers.

Dignity offers an online Funeral Notice service, allowing you to share the details of the funeral with friends and family via email, Facebook and Twitter. 

  1. 10. Organise a wake or funeral reception

Organising a wake or funeral reception after the service will allow friends and family to gather and remember a loved one in a more relaxed and less formal environment. If you do choose to hold a wake, you may need to book a suitable venue near to where the service was held and you should also consider providing food and drink for guests who are attending. 

 

We are here to help you arrange the funeral you want for your loved one. Your local Dignity Funeral Director will be able to talk you through the process of planning a funeral, helping you every step of the way.